Had enough - Page 2

p_b82 · 10-03-11, 01:06 PM

Hang in there, i know it can't be easy but as you have made that first step it is at least a step in the right direction.

I dont have any experience of what you are going through first hand RE the employment, but i have seen depression being botled up ruin a marriage.... and it nearly made me loose my marbles a few years ago and become a recluse.... i would leave the flat 2 times a week and only ever speak to people via emails never on the phone or face to face!

Wish you all the best with it and hope you are able work your way out of it!

mattie007 · 10-03-11, 01:47 PM

I know it's easy for me to say this, but chin up mate. Your a legend on these forums

I've had family members in a similar position, and it is tough but you'll get through it.
I'm feeling a bit low myself after my hours being cut and a close friend of mine has just been jailed for 18 years. But you have to remain strong.
You'll get through it with the help of family and friends

greenyzs180 · 12-03-11, 10:53 PM

no how yer feel m8,i became depressed after my bike accident as feared couldnt work again as non stop prob, i'm now on disability for rest of my life and feel bloody lazy but what can i do?most of my m8's say i have it easy, i mean i could high rate mobility and all my rent paid...**** that i used to be a hard worker and rather be out there earning the pennies,it gets me down alot and if it wasnt for my kids putting a smile on my face i don't think i would be here to enjoy life let alone the zs!, easy to say but keep yer chin up and you have guts to speak up,takes a man to speak up about his probs instead of hiding away.

BUCKYDEVIL · 10-03-11, 02:03 PM

Think you have made a good start by at least opening up to how you are feeling as bottling things up to yourself like men do only compounds all the stress till the point where somethings going to snap, Im quilty of this and have in the past went into a violent rage over the simplest of matters,
Not done it for years as I now have a partner I can talk to about anything.
Hope you can feel some relief at least by knowing that WE are hear to listen and Support you through this dark time Alan.

WXM Matty · 10-03-11, 02:11 PM

Head up, most people wouldn't even have the nerve to openly admit it. You know something not right and needs to change. As others have said help is out there things can only get better.

jamesc777 · 10-03-11, 02:16 PM

I know im only new here but id like to say your not alone Alan, as gsinclarzs said, i think there are quite alot of guys who wont admit how much it affects them. talking to someone can help, it did for me. I think anyone one here would give you all they time they can if you wanted to bend their ear for a while, i certainly would.
all the best mate

Smokey · 10-03-11, 02:17 PM

I really feel for you Alan. As Mattie says, you are a legend here and that is something positive. Forums are a place where you get honest opinions as it is easy to say what you want behind the sheild of a monitor. So to become a popular person is probably harder than anywhere else so you should be proud of that.

I hope this is the start of a recovery for you mate and if you do feel you need to get away from things, feel free to come up north and stay with Kat and I for a while to clear your head. Might be of some help.

Bobdope2002 · 10-03-11, 02:31 PM

Chin Up Alan Mate ive been theyre took me nigh on a year to find something on a perm basis and i was about ready to go mad

have you considered Driving jobs or something similar......

Maxfly · 10-03-11, 03:22 PM

It will come right in the end Alan, might be a **** of a slog and i am glad I have been lucky enough to have not been where you are now but your luck will turn

peterzs · 10-03-11, 04:05 PM

Hi Alan, think you've got more balls than me for posting this up.

Sorry you are going through the pain, and hope that things start to improve.

I used to work for a landscaping company, and every year there was a panic when the grass started to grow in the Spring. Dont know if its worth having a word with any companies up that way. We lost our main contract to ISS Waterers, worked on army, navy and RAF bases. Pays not much but with overtime etc wasnt bad. Get some training on tree felling, pest control etc and quite a few of our guys went out on their own.

I'm past all the working problems now, but it must be difficult with all the cut backs that seem to be going on, just a matter of going for whatever is out there.

You know your not alone and we would do anything to help.